Just before Valentines I received a letter from my mom. I expected it to be some holiday card for my kids with a note from her and a gift card. Like she sent for Christmas. (We sent her Christmas cards and gifts, that were left at the door, to charity and sent her a letter telling her as much.) Knowing that these letters and gifts always cause an emotional reaction in me I put it to the side and did not open it. But of course just receiving the letter had an emotional reaction. That is when I tweeted this.
I am sick of receiving gifts during the holidays from my family. They are insults. As if a gift makes the abuse go away, makes it ok.
The only gift I ever want from my family is for them to face the truth of the abuse all of us have endured, and disown my abusive father.