What Christians and the LDS can do to help survivors

7f0c0-leanonthelordI am so thankful for this blog post What Christians can do to help survivors.  I tweeted quite a few quotes from this post.  I am reposting those tweets here so I can quickly review these topics again in the future.

  1. Rapists are manipulative, that’s how they do it. So make it clear that you will always believe them (victims).
  2. Just because you think the victim isn’t Perfect Wonderful Christian, doesn’t make your judgment right.
  3. And just because you think Mr. Nice Christian Man over there would never do it, doesn’t make your judgment right.
  4. Believe survivors. I swear to you, in this culture, there is no benefit to go around “making up” rape stories.
  5. Bring it up. Even if you make other people uncomfortable, you might be surprised at who might confide in you.
  6. Tell your fellow Christians how it’s not the survivor’s fault, how rape is never deserved.
  7. Talk to your kids, if someone does something to them it is not their shame, and they do not have to hide.
  8. Preach rapists will not be tolerated. Make rapists afraid. I don’t care if that seems contradictory to Christian love.
  9. Preach not to rape.
  10. Cut out any and all sermons on modesty and abstinence until you can figure out a way not to shame survivors.
  11. Let them stay away from their abuser, ask the abuser to leave the church. Neutral ground is taking the rapist’s side.
  12. NEVER EVER EVER EVER IN A MILLION YEARS TALK ABOUT A SURVIVOR’S “SIN” AS IT RELATES TO THE ABUSE
  13. Support survivors when they talk. Let them be angry, let them be afraid.
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